go, or stay, but do not think
that if you wait it might get better
that the first time will be the last time,
don’t excuse the violence,
it is not just stress or job or no job or money or no money,
an abuser will be abusive
no matter the circumstance
the sad truth is that once it starts, it will always, only, ever, get worse
when is it time to leave?
when you realize that no one,
not even god, will change him for you,
when you no longer care about what you are leaving behind,
when your children tell you that it’s time to go,
it is
when you decide to leave, just do it
don’t pack more than you need,
don’t leave a note,
don’t call your mother,
don’t involve your friends,
don’t waste time gathering things that you are not willing to die for
and whatever you do,
don’t go back,
don’t ever go back,
no matter how sorry he seems
you must know that if you give him the chance
the abuser will get even
(c) 2020 BGeiger
dreaming out loud 
Good work. Good morning from Kenya.
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Such a great post. And sadly, spot on. I admire you for speaking out about domestic violence through your writing.
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Thank you Cherie. It’s important to me to do this, finally. Are you ok? You can email me on the contact page. Be safe and well. B
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Thank you for asking. I’m doing quite well. I survived an abusive relationship 15 years ago when I finally walked away. 🙂
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I’m so happy to hear that you got away safely. Good for you! It’s not easy, that’s for sure. But it seems to me that the only real way to cure the problem is to just walk away. Keep in touch if you have time.
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I sure will! I will definitely email you! 🙂
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fantastic!
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