if today were the day that he killed you would you wonder why you stayed?
if you are being physically abused you know, on some level, that you are in danger.
if you are staying in that situation for reasons that seem good to you, but make you wonder if you should, consider, that if you wait until tomorrow to leave, or think about leaving, or to try to stop the madness, that you may just be too late.
for a battered woman, there is always a chance that tomorrow may be the day that you die or that you may turn the tables, and become the thing you fear.
don’t let this desperate devotion keep you in this dangerous place.
an abusive relationship is not worth saving you are worth saving, and there really are things worse than dying.
i was a battered wife briefly, until I became a prisoner. which is of course, the only way to tame a Shrew
the single unlovely, outspoken, prickly weed in his perfect garden of quiet, well behaved possessions
the prisoner, fortunately, will never become what she is not and the Shrew will finally, at long last notice a spark of light in the darkness, pull herself up by her roots, and her hair, charge headlong into the blinding white light of freedom and never look back. not ever.
your circumstance is not your fate it is a warning, not a curse. run for your life before you put down roots
time is crashing into me heavily, demanding that i write the words that run screaming through my head, for the benefit of someone, somewhere who crouches, barely breathing, behind a locked door, waiting for the end.
tears cross the planes of her face, drizzling slowly toward the broken heart that beats behind the purple bruises from the last time.
no one will come to help no one knows that she is hiding once again, waiting for the storm to pass. to live through it one more time
i have bared my soul to the universe so that perhaps one woman or one child might live a better life
once there was a truth between us and then a lie, then many more ’till we were lost along the way somewhere.
there once was love behind your eyes but now we dance around the lies as you pierce the very air with the sharpened knives of your unremitting rage
the music starts and my emotional museum dredges up some dusty piece of trouble from a basement closet that opens inward, but not out. i blow off the dust, shine up the lies, and my precious good intentions fail to save me, once again
i could live with ugly truth it is your lovely lies that i find difficult to bury as i toss my shovel-full of dirt onto the empty casket of what never really was.
his love is a poison wrapped up in ribbons, a slow suffocation of all that seemed shining, a promise of dark dreams stinging with terror while violence lurks behind yesterday’s flowers.
she is cut to the bone with whispers and smiles. this is not love, this is raw, wicked power. it is rape with soft words that leave torn, jagged wounds on the bright, bloody shards of the soul of his lover.
the shadow of fear, falls cold as the night as hearts search in darkness, for truth without lies.
you won’t see her much these days they always ask, but she stays away her secret life has such demands she has no time for her old friends
they see the pain behind her eyes they see the change but don’t know why she was so bright and vibrant then the music of her soul has dimmed her old friends see and want to say but she wouldn’t tell them anyway
her sunny smile seems insincere her house too clean, her kids too quiet her hair and makeup always perfect she looks the part, but she’s just not the happy girl they knew and loved she won’t ask and they won’t say but they can’t help her anyway
she keeps her sorrows tucked away she needs help but she won’t say her secret shame keeps her withdrawn if only she could tell someone
one day soon, maybe today they might ask and she might say and they will help her get away
go, or stay, but do not think that if you wait it might get better that the first time will be the last time, don’t excuse the violence, it is not just stress or job or no job or money or no money, an abuser will be abusive no matter the circumstance the sad truth is that once it starts, it will always, only, ever, get worse
when is it time to leave? when you realize that no one, not even god, will change him for you, when you no longer care about what you are leaving behind, when your children tell you that it’s time to go, it is
when you decide to leave, just do it don’t pack more than you need, don’t leave a note, don’t call your mother, don’t involve your friends, don’t waste time gathering things that you are not willing to die for and whatever you do, don’t go back, don’t ever go back, no matter how sorry he seems you must know that if you give him the chance the abuser will get even
nobody will ever love you like i do, you fucking bitch. you are worthless, stupid, fat/skinny as the case may be, and of course, ugly.
if you just hadn’t said/done that. it’s your fault that i had to (you know).
if you have heard some version of this, you are being abused. wake up you are not any of those things. you do not deserve to live in fear he is not worth this damage to your body and your mind. listen to your brain, not his lies. your ego has lost its way, look for what is true.
abuse is a life-time lease on a condo in hell. the only way out is to open the door, put one foot in front of the other and walk away
smile frozen in place
she thinks that she is hiding her pain.
dancing on a wire
to a tune played by her leading man.
it is a frantic dance,
a carefully choreographed ballet.
any flat look of disappointment sends ice into her heart.
there is no end to the music
no breath between sets
she must anticipate each twirl and spin
for failure is unthinkable
and punishment is swift.
when finally she sleeps,
her dreams are wastelands.
sadly, she still hopes to please
to find what is lacking, repair the breach, and return to the fairy tale.
she does not yet understand
that fairy tales are horror stories
in the end.
suddenly the storm is me my emotions rage and tear the air like debris tossed about in a wild wind i will not be peaceful if it means dying with the words suffocated behind my lips i will not be a shadow any longer i must stand in the light even if it is a storm
we want time, and time, and more time, to what end? will we die happier if we live a long life or if we live gratefully for temporary things, love, kinship, a smile, eyes that truly see
look at the trees, i doubt they complain about the years they don’t have. it seems enough to stretch their branches toward the sun, to witness thunder and soak up fresh drops of rain, to stand tall without demanding eternity.
breathe in the beauty and strength of the trees, endlessly renewing, shedding the old and moving on. it is the way of the universe. we live, we grow old, or not, and we die, maybe we change form and shape and live again, somehow or another or maybe not it doesn’t matter to me one life is magical enough, if i don’t waste it living in desperation and fear.
each of us are only particles,
currently assembled into sentient beings
held together by friction and stubbornness,
for the moment, of our being-ness.
pulled all of my strings and tore at my heart
’till my particles burned with confusion and dread.
from a bundle of tangled, broken fragments
was only the beginning.
learning to live again,
to find my own being-ness
took all of my soul’s work
and many days, and nights
when my particles disassemble this time,
I look forward
to becoming rain
The concept of becoming rain is from The Art of Living by Thich Nhat Hanh
tonight, i feel like a bird’s nest covered with skin. broken, twisted little branches held together with bits of string and sticks and stems wound up tighter than necessary to protect the pieces of me that have yet to shatter